My dear friend Lilli Cunningham succumbed to death on Friday, after a 2 year journey with cancer. Lilli and I first met in November, 2009, when she and her husband Bill attended a Systemic and Family Constellation workshop that I facilitated in Miami, Florida.
The lotus flower does not ask to be plucked
It springs forth in its
ripened time to emerge from the mud depths
and presents its heart.
“There is nothing to fix but there are many things to honor.” My colleague Francesca Mason Boring wrote these words describing her approach to the Family Constellation work.
The following quote is ascribed to The Ba’al Shem Tov, (1698-1770), mystical Rabbi and the founder of Chasidic Jewry. “The desire to forget prolongs exile; the secret of redemption is memory”.
I have just seen a most extraordinary film! It is “Harlan: In The Shadow Of The Jew Suss”.
The Buddhists believe that if any sentient soul suffers, we all suffer. In our common belief, however, our illusion is that we are unique discrete individuals. We believe that we each have our own destiny, our own karma, and that we reap what we sow.
The secret of the mountains is that the mountains simply exist, as I do myself: the mountains exist simply, which I do not. The mountains have no “meaning,” they are meaning; the mountains are.
Forgiveness, which connects, is hidden and quiet. It is not spoken, but practiced. It is essentially nothing but forbearance. It overlooks a
mistake, an injustice, a guilt, and forgets it.
One of my favorite elements of my professional practice are the Systemic, Structural and Family Constellation Workshops which I facilitate. In these amazing groups, people come together as strangers and in a few short hours, create intimacy, trust, and profound support for one another.